8 Signs We Worry Too Much About What People Think
Many of us worry too much about what people think – how we look, what we do for a living, who are we hanging out with, how we talk, act, etc. It turns out, we spend our entire life doing things just to avoid being judged.
But what we don’t understand is that by conforming to the social standards all the time we reduce a bit of our authenticity and personality. And, over time this can lead to frustration and even anxiety after realizing we are not living the life we want!
Even though wanting to become a good, positive person that everyone will love is ok, it’s not quite realistic. You can’t be perfect for everyone, and that’s ok. It’s ok to have people that won’t like you – it’s called life!
You may care about what your closest ones think of you, but you can’t direct your entire life according to others’ opinions and wishes. It’s your life, and you should live it the way you want.
Here are a few signs that will help you realize you worry too much about what other people think.
1. You Always Put Other People’s Needs Ahead of Your Own
Trying to satisfy other people’s needs all the time won’t leave you enough time to fulfill your own. If you don’t put a priority on your needs, you are telling yourself that others are more important than you are. And, that’s wrong!
In fact, you could be of more help to others if you’ve first met your needs and taken care of yourself.
2. You Feel Guilty for Spending Time on Your Hobby
Hobbies feed your soul and keep your creative mind working, thus making you more able to do bigger and better things. However, responsibilities from daily life could make you forget about this fun activity that’s in fact very important for you.
And, at other times you avoid doing your hobby just because others may think it’s not appropriate for you. But, you must remember to hold on to the things that make you happy and fulfilled!
So, even if your hobby is collecting insects or soap carving, it’s still something you enjoy doing.
3. You Are a Social Chameleon
This means you change your opinion, your look, your views, and even your political party just to fit into a social environment.
If you find yourself constantly agreeing with someone even on things you strongly disagree with, then you have a problem – you care too much what others think! You should stop doing that and defend your views and opinions as that builds a strong character.
4. You Tell White Lies
Ok, everyone tells white lies from time to time, but if you tell them just to feel you belong to a particular group, it means you worry too much about what they think.
You should realize that it’s important to stay true to your values and be with the people who respect you and love you for who you really are.
5. You Can’t Say No
If you keep on saying yes even for things you don’t like, it’s time to ask yourself why do you keep on doing that? Why do you agree to do things you don’t like doing? The answer is because you worry about what that person might think of you.
But, you are you, and you have to be true to yourself, and only those who will accept and respect your decisions are worth being around.
6. You Think Too Much Before You Say Something
If you do this often, it means you always try to say the right things. But, you can’t always give the perfect answer, and it’s not ok to censor yourself all the time.
Even though saying the right words can be good in certain situations, it’s not ok to do it all the time. Just be your natural self, and people will respect you even more.
7. You Find It Hard Asking for Help
If you have a hard time asking for help, it means you are not secure in your strength and you don’t want others to see you as weak. On the contrary, if you ask for help when you need it, people will see you as secure and comfortable with who you are.
8. You Always Play the Victim
If you do that whenever you have a problem, it means you want everyone to sympathize with you instead of blaming you or thinking something negative about you.
But, people will soon realize what you are doing, and it is then that they will start seeing you in a different light.
It’s time to stop caring too much about what others may think of you as that can lead to disappointment over the long run. Instead, be confident and proud of who you are, and don’t let your success and happiness depend on others.