5 Reasons Why Some of Us Keep Attracting Toxic Partners
Feeling like a magnet for narcissists? Maybe someone jokes about it with friends, but it’s actually a big issue in dating life. If a partner in life comes with a bad agenda, it might not be a coincidence.
Undoubtedly, due to that, we had our heart broken countless times. But, why is this happening to us? Are bad people drawn to us? It is about time we crack this vicious cycle.
There are 5 reasons why we may be attracting the wrong and toxic partners. To find out more, read below.
5 Reasons Why You Keep Attracting Toxic Partners
#1 You Tend to Forgive and Forget Too Easily
When people make mistakes or in some way wrong you, you tend to forgive them right away. But that is not all you forget what occurred hoping that maybe they will change.
This can be a big problem if someone is mistreating you, but you tend to keep forgiving them.
#2 You Want to See the Good in Other People
Even if someone does bad things, you believe they are good. You think that everyone is good. You always look past the bad, because according to you no one is toxic.
This is what you get wrong because sadly there are dangerous and toxic people out there and they would do you harm without blinking. So it would be best to keep your eyes open and pay close attention to their actions than to their words.
Actions speak louder than words. See if both things match.
#3 You Do Not Set Clear Boundaries
It is crucial to know what your limits are and ensure that other people know them as well. So, if you do not set defined, clear boundaries with the people around you, the truth is that you are going to face a lot of trouble.
Those people who only want to gain from you or hurt you will use the lack of boundaries to get what they want and need.
Do not let them, regardless of what position they have in your life. You cannot expect others to respect you if you do not respect yourself.
#4 You Try to Fix People
When it comes to broken people, you believe that a helping hand will make them feel whole again. You want to help them and make them feel better. But, toxic people use this to manipulate you.
Open your eyes, who is the broken one here?
#5 You Tend to Give More Than You Take
Being generous is a good and great quality to have, but it can not be so good sometimes. You see, when it comes to romantic relationships, you tend to give others without expecting anything in return.
Although this is a truly a noble thing to do, it doesn’t get you anywhere. And your selflessness may be admirable but not to toxic people; they will do everything possible to take advantage of it.
Final Words
Once you look at the reasons listed above with different eyes, you will understand that in general, those are good qualities to own. And the issue, may not be you but bad people who want to take advantage of who you are as a person.
You should learn to be more careful and pick wisely who truly deserves your kindness and heart. For once in your life, put yourself, your wants and needs first and things will change.
Source:
The Power of Silence
