6 Habits to Improve Parent-Child Relationship
The truth is, parenting is the toughest job in the world, and to be successful at it, we have to build a strong and sweet connection with our kids. That connection will make our kids want to cooperate and follow our rules while being on our side the whole time.
Having a strong bond with your kids will keep them motivated to follow your lead, and sometimes that can be hard because you have to remind, scold, nag, yell, or criticize them pretty much your entire life.
What’s important is to try to build a positive connection with your kids, and maintain it. And for that, you’ll need more than just meeting their basic needs – you’ll need to build in daily habits of connection! Here are a few suggestions.
6 Habits That Help Improve a Parent-Child Relationship
1. Aim for Hugs Every Day
Don’t forget to hug your kid first thing in the morning and last thing at night. Make eye contact, rub shoulders, pat backs, or tousle hair whenever you talk to them.
If your kid is a teenager, offer them a cool drink or coffee and chat while giving them a foot rub. You’ll be surprised how much you’ll learn about their life.
2. Play More & Listen
Spend more time playing with your kid instead of giving them your smartphone or tablet to keep them occupied. Play games, make them laugh and listen to them even if that means turning off music in the car.
In that way, you are showing to them that they are more important to you than anything else.
3. Schedule Time With Each of Your Kids Every Day
Make time for bonding with each of your kids every day. It could be 10 or 15 minutes, but it’ll be enough to learn what they want and need. Or, use this time just to hug them and pour your love into them.
4. Connect Before Transitions
Transitioning from one thing to another is not easy for kids. So, make the whole thing easier for them by connecting with them before the transition by using their name, looking them in the eye, and making them laugh.
5. Welcome Emotions
Let your kid express their emotions even when you are angry. Summon up your compassion and welcome the fears and tears that hide behind the anger. Try to control your emotions and don’t let the anger trigger you.
Don’t forget that you are the one your kid trusts enough to cry with. Acknowledge those feelings and let them know that you understand their pain. Afterward, they will feel calmer, more cooperative and closer to you.
6. Listen & Empathize
Always listen to your kids and try to see things from their perspective. Treat them with respect and try to look for a solution. In this way, you will understand why they are acting in a way that will otherwise drive you crazy.
Ask them questions like “How was that for you?” “Really?” “Tell me more…” to find out more for their problem, emotions, and behavior.
Your kids won’t stay in your home forever, and they will be gone before you know it. So, make sure you are there for your kid right here, right now. Although you can’t always be with them, make it a habit a few times a day.
Those are the memories you and they will cherish forever. We hope these tips will strengthen your relationship with your kid and will teach them how to become a good parent one day.