4 Things Toxic Partners Do and How to Deal with Them
You are with them for some time now, but suddenly you can tell that they are irrational. Suddenly, you can feel that some of their behaviors are bothering you. So, you ask yourself: “Was it always like this, and I pretended not to see it or is my partner changed?”
You can tell that their behavior is damaging to you. You see, the harm in their behavior is in their subtlety, you can’t tell it is coming until out of the blue you are caught up in it once more.
The behavior of your partner can easily make you question yourself: “Am I overreacting? Did I do something wrong?” If you can identify their toxic behavior, it will put you in a better position when it comes to handling the situation.
Below you will see a list of the most common toxic behaviors most partners use to manipulate their significant other to their own advantage. You will learn to recognize their behaviors and how to respond to them.
#1 Toxic Partners Project Their Own Feelings On You
Inevitably, you have faced your partner who asked you: “Do you have an issue with me?” Most likely you were taken aback from this question
. You should know that you cannot give an appropriate answer to this question because you were not talking about your emotions but of those of your partner.
Probably your partner wasn’t owning up to having an issue with you, so for them, it was easier to project your issue on you. In case their allegations and statements against you make you feel strange, then you should know that they have nothing to do with you.
In such a situation, you do not need to defend yourself, because it has nothing to do with you. Just let it be.
#2 Toxic Partners Cannot Have a Discussion to Resolve Problems
You should bear in mind that toxic people do not have a sense of logic. They will always avoid talking about a certain issue.
They usually do it by changing the subject, or if you are persistent, they will mention other unresolved problems just to mess with your head.
They do not know how to apologize, even if they admit of something they’ll say that they did it because it was your fault in the first place. With a toxic person, you cannot win an argument. What should you do in such a situation?
You should say your point, but do not try to defend it. You should refuse to respond to things which aren’t relevant. Maybe you won’t win the argument, but one thing is certain you will avoid all the unnecessary drama.
#3 Toxic Partners Never Act the Same
Today your partner can be the best person possible, pleasant and charming. But the next day you encounter the silent treatment. Every normal person would begin wondering what they have done wrong, so it is the same for you.
You begin trying to put matters right, but that is mission impossible. All you get is a cold look which says do not approach or talk to me. Regardless what you do, nothing is good enough.
What should you do in such a situation? You should understand that this isn’t about you, you have done nothing wrong. This is about your partner and their need to control and manipulate you.
Do not waste your time trying to please them; it shall not help. You aren’t responsible for their displeasure, mood, pleasure or happiness. If your partner doesn’t want to talk about it, it cannot be that important, right?
#4 Toxic Partners Are Never Wrong, and They Never Apologize
Such people defy all logic. You see, when it comes to toxic people, facts have no meaning. All that matters to them is that they are right and they will defend this even when it makes no sense.
They will do the best to twist all the facts so they will try to confuse you by talking of situations and details which you cannot identify. How to deal in such a situation?
The best thing for you and your own peace is to give up the need to be right and to not expect them to apologize. Regardless of what you say or do, they will always be right, and you will always be wrong.
Regardless of what you say or do, they will never apologize. Why wait and hope for something which will never come? You know the truth in your heart, and that is all you need to know.